In this article, I'm going to talk about three ways men are different than women in relationships. Obviously, there are exceptions to what I'm about to say, but the truth is that these experiences are quite typical, and they often cause problems between us women and the opposite sex. My hope is that by understanding how we're different rather than loathing itwe can work towards feeling more bonded to each other in love.
Men pull away to feel autonomous, while women pull away because we feel negative emotions.
As women, it can be difficult for us to understand that men need space from us even if they love us. When a guy starts to back away, we may worry or panic that we did something wrong. We may think his love has come to an end!
But the truth is, we believe these things because when we take space, it means something is wrong. Men are different from us. Women have a larger capacity for emotional intimacy than men. It's what we're made for! We thrive on deeply connected relationshipsnot only with our men, but with our girlfriends, too. While men love feeling bonded with us, they also have a strong desire for autonomy and independence. This is part of what makes them men! Therefore, it's not uncommon for a man to back away after being deeply connected to a woman.
It's actually a good thing. The space allows him to come back to his sense of self, so he can reengage with you in a solid way. A man is likely to approach you ready for more love if you can respect his space. Know that his distance doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong; it's simply his way of feeling like a man again which makes him even more available for a deeper connection with you. Men feel competent by making women happy, while women feel met by receiving from their men.
We often don't realize how important it is for a man to please his woman; a man derives great satisfaction by providing for and making his partner happy.
But here's the problem: If we are the ones constantly making all the plans, cooking all the meals, controlling the schedule, and making sure everything is taken care of, there's not enough room for a man to be a man. This doesn't feel good to him; providing is actually what he wants to do!
This, of course, infuriates women!
But anger is not the answer; sitting back and creating space for your man to come forward is. If you want your relationship run smoother, give up some control and let a man start doing things for you.
Everyone will be much happier as a result. Men are more likely to orient to the world with their minds, while women are more likely to orient to the world with their hearts. We as women can often feel like men don't get it.
They truly don't understand the world of emotions the way we do. Problem-solving makes him feel good! Logic makes him feel good! Being mind-oriented makes him want to fix.